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“Spiritual warfare” as psychological abuse

If you were raised with demons, this is for you.

The RHR Digest | Publication Date: February 27th, 2026

For those of us indoctrinated into a high-control religion, the concept of “spiritual warfare” usually comes with the territory.

In fact, it was probably routine for you to hear things like: there’s an invisible battle all around us and the “enemy” is looking for a way in.

You were probably also familiar with experiences like fear, doubt, conflict, or even curiosity being interpreted as either a spiritual attack or Satan tempting you.

Earlier this week, I posted a poll to my Instagram asking the question, “Was the concept of ‘spiritual warfare’ a part of your experience with high-control religion?”

Here were the results:

  • Yes, it was a HUGE part of it! – 73%
  • Yes, to some degree
 – 23%
  • No, not really. – 2%
  • I’m not familiar with that phrase. – 2%

Honestly, these results didn’t surprise me in the slightest because indoctrinating people to believe in “spiritual warfare” helps high-control religions access and maintain control in a few key ways:

  • It sets up an “us vs them” dynamic
  • It activates the nervous system to always be on high alert
  • It creates the need for an all-powerful protector
  • It eliminates personal agency

In this RHR Digest, I want to try to synthesize how all this can add up to a profound form of psychological abuse.


Why “spiritual warfare” indoctrination is psychological abuse

Psychological abuse is a pattern of nonphysical harm that shows up through things like chronic invalidation, manipulation, coercion, and persistent pressure to doubt your own reality or override your own boundaries.

When a religious system teaches you that unseen evil forces are constantly targeting your thoughts, relationships, and desires, a chronic state of fear and hyper-vigilance tends to become your baseline.

This type of baseline is reflective of chronic exposure to psychological abuse.

In practice, “spiritual warfare” indoctrination is psychologically abusive because this process alters your sense of reality, manipulates your emotions, and eliminates your personal agency.

Here’s how that looks.

Alters your sense of reality

“Spiritual warfare” indoctrination conditions you to accept a new reality where normal inner experiences get reinterpreted as spiritual threat.

It inevitably becomes harder to rely on your own perceptions when intrusive thoughts are thought of as “darts from the enemy” and having doubts or questions viewed as evidence of Satan’s attempts at deceiving you.

This often means that instead of asking, “What do I think?” you default into, “Where is this coming from spiritually?”

This subtle undermining of your ability to interpret your own reality creates fertile ground for outside authority to become the source of meaning, safety, and protection.

Manipulates your emotions

Spiritual warfare language becomes emotional control when it changes what your emotions are “allowed” to mean. Or when it’s used to generate certain emotions—especially fear.

In this context, a difficult week or challenges in relationships becomes spiritual opposition.

So instead of getting curious about what you feel, you start scanning for what you did wrong, what you “opened yourself up to,” or what you are not doing well enough in a spiritual sense.

The result is that you become preoccupied with managing your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors because staying “covered” (in god’s favor) can feel like the only route back to safety.

Eliminates your personal agency

Spiritual warfare messaging strips away personal agency by teaching you to interpret everyday choices and problems through a supernatural filter.

Instead of evaluating circumstances and acting on logical thought processes, you start looking for hidden spiritual meaning, trying to avoid missteps you worry are there but that you can’t fully see.

Normal uncertainty gets reframed as wrongdoing or vulnerability, which creates dependence on external authorities to define what is right and safe.

Over time, this erodes confidence in self-direction and makes it harder to trust your judgment and solve problems without relying on an outside authority for “guidance.”


Common psychological abuse themes in “spiritual warfare” circles

There are a number of themes or common experiences that are often woven through the three broad areas of psychological abuse described in the last section.

These themes are distilled from experiences people may have in a variety of Western Christian religions that embrace the notion of spiritual warfare, but they probably won’t fully capture the breadth of what shows up across all cultures and religious traditions.

Hypervigilance as “faithfulness”

Spiritual warfare teaching can condition you to constantly scan for threat and treat that scanning as a form of spiritual maturity or dedication.

This can include monitoring media, thoughts, the home, and even bodily sensations.

The implication is that constant alertness and never standing down are evidence of being truly faithful.

Thought-policing & internal mistrust

Spiritual warfare becomes a framework for distrusting normal internal experiences.

Intrusive thoughts, doubt, curiosity, sexual desire, and big feelings get interpreted as demonic influence or personal failure.

That creates chronic self-surveillance and makes it harder to use internal signals as information.

Compulsive “covering” behaviors

Spiritual warfare messaging can encourage repetitive, exhausting practices meant to keep danger out or keep god “on your side.”

Incessant prayer, saying the right words, scripture memorization, scanning the home for “idols,” and “armor of god” imagery can become ways of trying to prevent catastrophe by doing the ritual correctly.

Childhood terror

When this concept is introduced young, it can function like a horror story overlaying daily life.

Fear of the dark, waking at night, fear of being alone, and vivid imagery of demons and angels as literal threats can become part of the baseline experience.

Scapegoating

Spiritual warfare frameworks can also be used to direct fear outward by identifying social “enemies.”

It can fuel moral panic about feminists, LGBTQ+ folks, reproductive choice, and anyone seen as mocking the faith, while making prejudice feel like “defense against evil.”

Performative conditioning

In charismatic settings, spiritual warfare can become a performance demand.

Speaking in tongues, lengthy intense prayers, and constant readiness for “something supernatural” can keep people compliant and anxious about being seen as “right with god.”


Putting the Pieces Together

When you zoom out from these themes and look at it as one big picture, you can probably see how all these dynamics work together to control you and your world.

You’re taught to distrust your instincts, reinterpret ordinary emotions as spiritual danger, and rely on external authorities for meaning and safety—all of which add up to profound psychological abuse in my opinion.

Recovering from this type of psychological abuse doesn’t mean you have to reject spirituality if that’s still something that’s important to you.

But recovery will almost certainly involve intentionally reclaiming your capacity to evaluate your experiences, trust your judgment, and make choices that align with your wants and needs without living under constant suspicion of invisible threats.

And for lots of folks, this type of psychological trauma lingers in the nervous system even long after leaving a spiritual warfare obsessed group, and you might find yourself dealing with ongoing symptoms of anxiety, depression, OCD, or PTSD.

If that’s the case, working with a therapist who has experience helping folks recover from psychological trauma could make all the difference in your recovery journey.

Going Deeper

Here are a couple questions to journal about or to unpack during your next therapy session:

  • How has the concept of “spiritual warfare” influenced your perception of your emotions and experiences (in the past and even now)?
  • Reflect on any coping mechanisms or rituals you engage in to feel “safe” spiritually. How do these practices impact your emotional well-being and sense of agency?

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