This article offers insights on reclaiming your sexuality, developing a non-religious sexual ethic, and understanding desire. Learn how to navigate your journey with compassion and clarity, while prioritizing consent and personal values in your sex life following religious deconstruction.
This article explains how the nervous system responds to religious trauma—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—why freeze and fawn are often the most common. It also includes how these trauma responses may still be showing up today.
This article is for all the children who were labeled “black sheep” because of the inability to conform to the demands of their high-control religious upbringing. This article explores how receiving this label in childhood impacts identity, relationships, and mental health.
On the surface, high-functioning religious trauma looks makes it appear as though you “have it all together” while under the surface, this high-functioning persona is being fueled by fear, anxiety, and stress.
While anger is often demonized or suppressed in high control religions, accessing it in a healthy, balanced way is often a critical component of making progress in your religious trauma recovery.
It’s common knowledge that narcissists can take a real toll on the mental health of those they’re close to, but have you considered that perhaps the god you once served was a narcissist?
Even though you may have ditched the conservative teachings around sex and identity, you may still struggle with internalized beliefs from those old teachings. This article helps you begin to deprogram at a deeper level.
In this article, I’m talking about something I see all the time in my religious harm recovery work: trauma bonds. While this term is often used when discussing abusive relationships, trauma bonds can also form in authoritarian religious groups where fear, guilt, and control are key tools for keeping members loyal and obedient. {Disclaimer: I…
When you leave a high control religious group, you’re not just stepping away from a belief system. Most of us also face the reality of losing a significant social network. For those who grew up in closed-off communities, finding new friends and support systems can often feel perplexing, overwhelming, and maybe even scary. The goal…
In my last post, I talked about how parents influenced by religious indoctrination often lean towards authoritarian parenting styles, which can lead their children to develop insecure attachment patterns. Read it here: How Authoritarian Parenting Creates an Insecure Attachment Style This week, we’re looking at another way indoctrinated parents tend to show up: emotionally neglectful…